There is healing grief and there is grief that burdens the dead. Steiner asks that we discern the difference.
Good thoughts are like balm to the dead. No selfish love must be send them, no grieving because the departed is not around any longer; this bothers the deceased and brings to them a heavy burden. The love that remains and makes no claim to still want the dead here with us, benefits the deceased and increases his or her happiness.
Source (German): Rudolf Steiner – GA 95 -Vor dem Tore der Theosophie – Stuttgart, September 2, 1906 (page 151)
Translated by Nesta Carsten-Krüger
Previously posted on August 30, 2015