Today I’ll begin a discussion on my experience communicating with the dying in unresponsive states or coma and my beginning experiences of communicating with the dead. While I have a good bit of experience with the one, I am relatively new to the other. These are my theories as of now which may very well change as I gain experience communing with the dead. But I want to lay out the beginning groundwork and we’ll see where it leads over time.
In my time communing with the dying, those either unable to respond in a recognizable way to the medical community or those in actual coma, I became somewhat fluent in the various brainwaves states we travel through on a daily basis. There are many great sites on the internet to describe them…but I will give you this one as it lists some of the “newer” discoveries; that of Lambda and Epsilon. (Please understand I am not endorsing the company nor its products. I just find their guide useful.)
What I found in my work as a death midwife was that, after preparing myself though meditation, ritual work and prayer, creating sacred space for and given sufficient time with a patient alone, I could connect with that patient and feel where on the brainwave frequency scale he or she was. Often they would be somewhere near the middle to lower ranges of theta or, in the case of coma, delta.
With enough time, slowing my breath to match my patient’s, emptying my mind and riding the wave; I could “find” them. Please understand the communication I received was not like sitting at Starbucks and chatting over a latte. However, I often received feelings, impressions and even bits of information. For example, I was with a very elderly gentleman once. Normally with someone of that age, out of respect, I would address him as Mr. Whatever-his-name-was. But for some reason, I knew in this instance that would be wrong. So I called him by his first name. Later when his young friend came to visit, she told me, without my asking, that this man never liked to be called “Mr.” He only wanted to be addressed by his first name.
There was one of the most beautiful interactions I ever had on the palliative care unit of Norfolk General Hospital with a very young woman in her early 20’s who was dying of terminal breast cancer. I was informed at the staff meeting that her mother had for all intents and purposes abandoned her and she had no one. With time and care, I established a deep connection with this young woman. Being old enough to be her mother, we formed a bond that staggers me to this day. Her need for a mother was so intense, so deep, that she psychically embraced me as such. With very minimal touch, which she telepathically granted my permission to make, I cradled her etherically, poured love into her and she, a thirsty sponge, soaked it up and up until I thought we might both burst from the intensity of the love shared. I spent as many hours with her as I could and when it became necessary to release the bond, I communicated the need to her again telepathically. She, in turn, made it very clear she didn’t want me to go and curled into a fetal position. It tore me up to leave her.
Coma patients I find to be a bit different. First, being able to stay awake while matching them in a delta frequency is no mean feat. What I found is that feelings and any snippets of words and such disappeared. What I received were symbols, fleeting images that I was tasked with ascribing meaning. What did those images, those symbols, mean to me? From there I might understand what they wanted to say.
So…with the dying…in my experience, slower and slower brainwave frequencies are accessed. But what happens when the body dies and the mind is no longer tied to the brain? What happens when consciousness is freed?
I’ll share my few experiences thus far on that. The first experience was at the bedside of my friend as he died. My very first experience being with someone as he crossed the threshold of death. I go into greater detail about this in my book but I felt him break loose of his body as his spirit passed through my hand (we were holding hands at the time so that was our only point of physical contact). I felt an electrical vibration, like millions of bees buzzing in my hand. The energy, which had been slowing down and down as he approached death, now ignited into something very high and euphoric. And I heard him, felt him, saying over and over, “Goodbye Joellyn. I love you. Thank you. Goodbye Joellyn. I love you. Thank you.”
The striking thing was the sense of moving from a very low brainwave frequency almost instantaneously to a frequency so high and unfettered by the brain it is nearly shattering. It reminds me of the reports of the Tibetans in their Book of the Dead where they speak of the newly dead travelling at very high rates of velocity, shooting through space to the accompaniment of the sounds of gongs and bells. I had an experience approximating that doing a particularly advanced form of extended pranayama. I actually felt I experienced a dress rehearsal for my death. I’ll never again experiment with that particular pranayama without a spotter for I surely thought I was dying!
There were many after death experiences with my friend that I wrote of in my book which faded over a period of about two years. Those are of a different nature and vibration than what I have so far encountered in my formal study of mental mediumship. They were spontaneous, unbidden and seemed to interject themselves into my normal waking state of consciousness. All the mediums I have studied with thus far agree that one has to raise one’s vibration in order to formally speak to the dead as mediums do in their sessions. The dead must lower their vibrations while we raise ours…meeting in the medium range…and hence the term medium.
In order to become certified by the James Van Praagh School of Mystical Arts in mediumship (please note the certification merely means you have successfully completed his course, not that he is certifying you as a medium…something some are already claiming unfortunately), I had to do what amounts to a platform reading for some strangers. Oh…so not what I wanted to do! But, knees shaking, I went ahead with it and using his techniques, I was able to raise my vibration high enough to make contact with a gentlemen’s deceased paternal grandfather, giving him lots of accurate detail before I lost the connection.
James describes it like this – imagine you are dog paddling in the middle of a lake. You paddle and paddle trying to keep your head above water. How much strength, how much muscle you have, determines how long you can keep your head up. As you tire, your nose dips under the wave. So it is with mental mediumship, as you tire, the vibration lowers and you lose the connection. This is very different with the dead than with the dying for I was able to maintain those lower frequencies for very long periods of time with ease.
So now my question is – what frequencies of vibrations are available to access for those without the limitations of the brain? Perhaps those of us still in the physical will be confined to those frequencies on the chart I provided…and yet…Lambda and Epsilon are more recently discovered. Can we keep pushing the boundaries and at least, for a time, step out of the confines of our brains to experience pure consciousness as do the dead and the angelic hierarchies? Somewhere beyond Epsilon or perhaps Hyper-Lambda? Is this what Rudolf Steiner is suggesting is our goal as we evolve ever upward? As I will keep reminding you, this is a work in progress as I meditate and seek guidance from my inner teachers. I am travelling out on the edge…and invite you to join me as we explore this together. I for one will be experimenting with the Lambda frequency as a means to come closer to the realm of the dead and the angelic hierarchies.
Please feel free to post your thoughts below. We are a community of spirits so let us begin a respectful dialogue.